Myth #2: Sex Is Natural – WRONG!!!
Sex is not natural.
Well, certain aspects of sex are natural – reproductive sex is natural. Put the right body parts in close proximity and most people can fumble around enough to get the bits to function, at least well enough to procreate. But that doesn’t make it good.
Good sex is not natural.
Sex that is immensely pleasurable, intensely intimate, highly erotic, that leads to personal transcendence and ecstatic states of bliss, sex that is uniquely human - that doesn’t come naturally. That is far more than a physical joining of genitalia. To have the kind of sex that humans are ultimately capable of involves the physical and the mental and emotional and even the spiritual.
Good sex is learned.
Good sex is an Art.
Like any art, the Fine Art of Sex takes understanding and practice to master.
Let’s look at an analogy with food. Eating is natural, it’s a natural instinct that keeps us alive, and most people can fumble around enough to be able to prepare food that’s edible and sustains them. Sure, make some toast, boil an egg, order take-out from McDonald’s, anyone can do that. But to make a gourmet feast, that’s another story. To reach full culinary potential requires dedication, learning, practice and desire.
Fortunately for cooks, there are plenty of books and courses available to develop their skills in the culinary arts. But there’s not a lot of material available in the modern western world to help people master the Art of Sex. It takes more than learning a few top tips, using the latest sex toy or trying out a new and clever move. That kind of advice is icing on the cake. That would be like teaching cooks how to ice the cake before they learn how to make the cake.
We need information on how to make the cake, not just ice it. We need information on how to master the ART of SEX.
Do you agree? Or not?
Stay Tuned for Myth #3
Wishing You Better Sex
Jacqueline Hellyer
World Renowned Holistic Sex Coach
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November 29th, 2007 at 8:18 am
I think you’re great but I think you are wrong! Good sex is natural but it’s become a rare thing rather like a hand written thank you note. How? By the speed we live, the unrealistic hollywood inspired air brushed expectations we harbour, the reluctance to make time, to take care, to bother; enter the contemporary lack of confidence and barrage on self-esteem, and the number of distractions! Good sex is natural but a prevailing modern urban existence has rendered great sex a dying art. Let’s think of the Slow Food movement; get rid of the pre-packaged and get back to basics. When sex was/is savoured and we use all our senses that’s when we remember that food and sex - good and great - are totally natural! You don’t need to do anything to a tomato that has ripened naturally under the warmth of the sun.
November 30th, 2007 at 1:43 am
We could get into a discussion about what “natural” really means. Do we live in a natural state? Cro-Magnon man (whoops! sorry, Cro-Magnon woman) certainly did. Did a young cave girl and boy, deeply in love, wander off to an idyllic hot pool and indulge in hours of pampering and exquisite lovemaking. I don’t think so. The sabre-tooth tiger factor would have been a bit inhibiting. Natural sex was probably communal, rushed and somewhat sweaty. It’s only in the last few thousand years that we have had the leisure and safety to experiment and evolve this art. So I agree with Jacqueline, great sex is not natural; it is a product of civilization.
December 2nd, 2007 at 11:23 am
hmm, just wandered back and great to see another post. this time i agree with you. its like anything–practice makes perfect. i guess it helps to have some good advice and a good recipe. keep writing the recipes & ill come back.
December 29th, 2007 at 8:05 am
i would like to think that good sex is natural because I want to promote that sex should be with out the confines of society. But… why should sex be different from anything else? If ‘good’ sex is your normal experience, good for you, but I think you are one of the lucky ones. Perhaps like food,you now the vaule of combining the right ingredients and taking time, but alot of people don’t.